Most of our parents did the best they could with what they had, which may have been their own childhood trauma. But, every child experiences some degree of trauma. The problem comes when you don’t have healthy outlets for your emotions. If you have a parent that allows you to speak your mind, or if you have someone that listens to you without judgement or criticism, you may be a lot healthier emotionally.
Those of us that didn’t feel in control of our environment and felt emotions were not safe to feel, suppressed our emotions, thinking we could ignore them or hide them.
But, emotions are energy and thoughts are energy. If you don’t express them in a healthy, conscious way, the body will express them in an unhealthy, unconscious way. Your subconscious mind wants to keep you safe from harmful feelings, so your body creates health symptoms to distract you from your scary emotions. It reasons, “Oh, thinking about being teased as a child is really humiliating. Let’s go with some hip pain that will keep you from being active and keep you searching for solutions to the pain. Then you won’t have time to think about that childhood embarrassment.” Or, “Wow, mother was really critical, and thoughts of being not good enough feel shameful. Instead, we’ll go with chronic migraines that will keep you from getting together with friends that may judge you. That will keep you safe.”
Your subconscious has the best intentions, but there are better ways to finally express those emotions and feel safe.